Last week, I published a blog titled “Three Questions to Ask Yourself When Your Relationship is Confusing”.  I kept thinking about the topic of relationship confusion and realized that you can prevent much of it if you follow two simple guidelines.

As a disclaimer, this is a tough love post. It comes across harsh because I’m extremely serious and passionate about the topic of healthy relationships and taking your relationship with God seriously.

There is also a video at the bottom of the post where I talk about this topic just to make sure my sincere emotions show through. If you prefer to watch a video over reading, just keep scrolling :).

So here we go with guideline number one…

Take what the Bible says SERIOUSLY

If you are a Christian, your goal is to live your life in a Godly way. It offers solid relationship advice to keep us from  unnecessary heartache and baggage. Many teenagers I’ve met that claim to be Christians get saved and then think, “I don’t really need God to lead my life; I’m good on my own;  I’ll figure out this relationship thing myself.”

This is equivalent of buying a car and thinking, “I don’t need to look at the Owner’s Manual. I’m good.” …and then your car dies in 20,000 miles because you never changed the oil.

The Bible is the Christian guide to living just like the Owner’s Manual is a guide to a vehicle.  So, when the Bible says:

• Make no provision for the flesh (Romans 13:14)
• Flee youthful lusts (2 Timothy 2:22)
• Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19)

…you need to take that seriously. God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33) and if you take him out of your relationships and refuse to use the Bible as your guide, all you’re left with is confusion.

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Set Boundaries

Usually when I talk about relationship boundaries, I’m met with…

(p.s. Apparently I really like Ryan Reynolds GIFs…).

However, setting boundaries and actually following them will prevent so much confusion.

Take this one for example:

• Sex is for marriage only

If you take this on as a boundary in your life you will have NO confusion when it comes to physical aspects of a dating relationship. Follow God’s plan, and sex being only for marriage is his plan, and the confusion is completely prevented.

This is just one example of a physical boundary, but there are also emotional boundaries in relationships too that need to be set. We have much more to say about boundaries and how to set good ones in our book.

Having firm boundaries in dating relationships will help set you up for success and not confusion.

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A Video & In Closing

I felt like I could not convey my emotions on this topic clearly enough without a video, so I made one if you’d prefer to watch it 🙂

I hope you found this post helpful. If you did, please share and share with anyone you think may need it! Also, if you want to know more about our book and setting a Biblical foundation for dating relationships, click here or the image below.

You can also see all of our relationship posts by clicking here.

Thanks again for reading and I’ll be back next week!

-Sarah

photo credit:
Jacob Morrison

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