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Emma Walker & The Cycle of Violence

October 22, 2018

The Cycle of Violence is a subject that is “near and dear” to my heart. In fact, I did an seven part series (click here for the first post) within the first two months of launching this site, and I talk about it length as well in my book on teenage dating.

Since it has been two years since I’ve discussed the topic, I wanted to do a refresher. The story I am going to tell you happened an hour from where I live, and it was in the local news cycle for months.

PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY: If the cycle of violence can happen to me, it can happen to anyone. Do not be naive reading this and think it won’t because you’re a “good Christian girl”. What I’m about to discuss really could save your life.

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Vlog: My Story of Abuse

November 11, 2016

We’ve made it! This is the last post in our Cycle of Violence series! So far we have discussed:
The Cycle of Violence
Seven Characteristics of an Abuser
Quiz: Am I in an Abusive Relationship?
How to Break up with an Abuser
Healing After Abuse
How to avoid an Abuser in the Future

The final post is my personal story. **UPDATE (2018): I looked back over this video and cut out some of the not so interesting parts. It’s now 12 minutes instead of 18. The first 10 seconds is a little choppy for some reason, but the rest of the video is fine.**

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How to Avoid an Abuser in Your Future Relationships

November 9, 2016

One of the biggest questions I had when my abusive relationship ended was, “How do I avoid this ever happening to me again?”

UPDATE: I have created a quiz entitled “Quiz: Could my crush be a potential abuser?” that you can access in our free resource library that will help with this as well; it has a bit more than what is included in this post!*

After reading many, many articles and doing some massive soul searching and deconstructing how my abuser and I first began to date, I found some common threads.

Below are three action items to do that will help you avoid getting into an abusive relationship.

*There is a video at the end if you prefer that*

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Healing After an Abusive Relationship

November 6, 2016

Hey everyone and welcome back to the Cycle of Violence series. I am so glad you’re here! If you randomly stumbled upon this, we are doing a two week series on teenage dating violence. All of the posts are linked at the bottom.

Today we are discussing five ways to heal after an abusive relationship. Being in this type of relationship takes a toll on almost every aspect of your life and hopefully by the end of the post, you will have concrete guidelines that will help you stay in the fast lane on the road to recovery.

There is a video that goes along with this is at the end of the post if you prefer that. :).

Let’s dive in! How to heal after an abusive relationship.

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